I went out to lunch on Thursday with a guy, my first “date” since Harry passed away. It just made me realize how much I miss him and how we were perfect together. I was not looking to be dating yet, but was contacted via Facebook by this guy who I had gone to high school with and who didn’t live here anymore. He was back in town for a few days and wanted to take me to lunch. As cute as this guy (who will remain nameless) was, I could tell all he wanted was to hook up. First red flag: taking me to a bar and ordering endless drinks. Now, I can drink with the best of them. But at noon on a Thursday? I don’t know, just not my thing. Second red flag: Putting the moves on me as soon as we arrive at my apartment after lunch. When I pushed him away and said I wasn’t ready, this was the conversation:
Me: “I’m sorry, I’m just not there yet. Harry only passed away in January. I feel like he’s here watching me, upset that I even went out to lunch with you.”
Date: “Don’t you think Harry would want you to be happy?”
Me: “Yes, I know he would want me happy, but I don’t think he would want me to be hooking up with a random guy 9 months after he died.”
Date: “But aren’t you lonely?”
Me: “Yes, but that doesn’t mean that I will just hook up with someone just to hook up.”
He left soon after this conversation, ran actually, out of my apartment, saying something about dinner with his family. Funny he never mentioned having to leave before that. That night, I sent him a text message telling him that I would love to see him again before he leaves, but there will be no hooking up going on, that I just wasn’t like that. He did not reply. I then sent him a long e-mail to explain where I was coming from. Still, nothing. Fast forward three days later. I receive a text message from him. It says:
“I’m leaving tonight. This is your last opportunity to **** it.”
Seriously??? I ask him if he ever read the e-mail. He says his e-mail is screwed up and he never got it, and again asks if he can see me. I shouldn’t have even taken the time to write the e-mail. He obviously wanted one thing. Just goes to show you. Men can be thoughtless pigs….no I take that back. Men do think, they just do it with their penis.
